Some people become addicted to the act of risking because it involves facing fear and acting dangerously. They don't understand that people who value themselves have a goal and realize the effort they must make and do not leap in the dark.

If you have no anxiety, the risk you face is probably not worthy of you.

Only risks you have outgrown no longer frighten you

The most important risk you can take is to be honest in expressing your feelings. If you do not express what you feel, you are forced to use defenses to keep unwanted feelings away. Whether you deny the feeling, justify it intellectually, or pretend that it is unimportant, it is all the same.

If you do not risk expressing your feelings directly, other risks will be burdened by them. You may end up pursuing the wrong goal out of anger, or you may discover you cannot act without guilt.

All fears have the same effect on us. Fears limit! If you have unresolved fears, you never fully relax. You are never sure when circumstances will be such that the thing that arouses fear in you will rise and suddenly you will be out of control. Those unresolved fears would get in the way of taking a risk regardless of the possible rewards.

One way of coping with fear is to imagine what would happen in the worst case scenario. What are you afraid of losing? What would you do if the bottom fell out? It would be wise to consider the chances of the worst happening and what you are basing that possibility on, Can you get out of the risk before the worst happens? If you cannot get out of a risk once it is under way, and the losses are so great that they paralyze you just to think about them, you are describing a risk you probably shouldn't take.

You can play it safe and tip-toe through life but that is not what life is about. You can liken it to building a ship and leaving it in the harbor.

The harbor is safe, but that is not what ships are built for.

I will leave you with this funny story that points out one risk a man was not willing to take.

A man and his ever-nagging wife went on vacation to Jerusalem. While they were there, the wife passed away.

The undertaker told the husband,. "You can have her shipped home for $5,000 or you can bury her here, in the Holy Land, for $150.

The man thought about it and told him he would have her shipped home.

The undertaker asked, "Why would you spend $5,000 to ship your wife home, when it would be wonderful to be buried here and you would only spend $150?"

The man replied, "Long ago a man died here, was buried here, and three days later he rose from the dead. "I just can't take that chance!"

Have a great day!